Poh-poh & Bryan

I am really glad that Bryan is close to my mother. Now that I am taking care of Dylan, I can no longer accompany Bryan to sleep. So my mother is now taking over the role.

The first night Dylan comes home, I continued to tuck Bryan to bed and run to his room each time he cries. I have almost no sleep that night – between feeding and caring for Dylan at night and attending to Bryan at the same time.

Most probably that it is due to Bryan’s anxiety, he woke up many times that night, crying for me. I feel so wrecked by the next morning. Hubb also had no sleep as he have to help take care of Dylan as well and calm Dylan down when I am with Bryan. I felt like I was compromising Dylan. I am not favoring Dylan over Bryan, but Dylan is a newborn baby. He needs my full attention. And as I am exclusively bfg him, no one else can help me with feeding as I still do not have any milk storage.

So the 2nd night onwards, I asked my mom to accompany Bryan, and everyone could get a bit more rest.

Thanks a lot mother! I don’t know how I would manage this without you.

Coming home to Kor-Kor

Baby Dylan and I was discharged from the hospital 2 days later. When we reached home, Bryan was having his afternoon nap.

As soon as he wakes up, I greeted him with Dylan in my arms. Bryan was very excited to see Dylan, and kept saying, “Di di, chu lai liao” (Di di come out already).

I gave him a present from Dylan and he was very excited about the toy. But not long after that, the nightmare starts. He started saying that I cannot hold Dylan. I told him that Dylan needs to be fed and he is hungry.

He refused to listen and I had to lock myself in a room to bf Dylan with Bryan wailing outside. So after feeding, I have to pass Dylan to someone else. Bryan is OK with everyone else holding Dylan except me.

Feeding is just nightmare #1.

Nightmare #2: We had not opened up the play pen for Dylan to sleep in. So I let him sleep on the bed downstairs. Bryan kept wanting to sleep next to Dylan. He’ll say, “Ken didi ee chi suei chiau.” But when he lies next to Dylan, he would touch his hair, eyes, pull out his hand from the swaddling blanket, commenting how small his hands are..bla bla bla. He would talk loudly next to Dylan and startle him from his sleep.

Nightmare #3: When we tell him he cannot do that, he started tumbling on the bed next to Dylan. My mom was so scared that he would tumble right on top of Dylan, so she quickly rescued Dylan and held him in her arms.

There was once he actually hit Dylan in his tumble. Luckily it was a minor hit and Dylan does not seem to be hurt, though he did curl up his lips in protest.

Nightmare #4: Another time, he started tumbling, and I picked Dylan up quickly. Bryan got mad, and reached for the remote control and threw it at Dylan. Luckily it hit my hand instead. I told him that he cannot throw things at Dylan and he started reaching for everything to throw at Dylan – the blanket, diapers etc. He just did not want me to hold Dylan.

People have been telling me that it takes time for Bryan to accept Dylan. Bryan is excited about Dylan but yet he is very worried that I will love him less. He tells my mom that I cannot hold Dylan and cannot “sayang” Dylan.

So my whole family have been trying to brainwash him every day and night to get him to accept Dylan as part of the family. Sometimes he really test our patience, my patience and I feel like giving him a big whack on the butt. But I know this will only makes things worse. So we held our patience when Bryan misbehaves and just remove Dylan until Bryan calms down.

I know Bryan does love Dylan. He is very excited to see Dylan all the time but he gets mad whenever I hold Dylan. So it is a confusing stage for him as Mommy has always been his, and was not meant to be shared.

I really hope things get better soon…..

Protected: Dylan’s vs Bryan’s birth

Protected: Welcome baby Dylan – The Birth Story

It’s everyone’s birthday, and also…

No, it is not Bryan’s birthday, but it’s my mom’s.

Yesterday was the 7th day of the first month of the Chinese lunar calendar. That day is dubbed as “ren ji” (human day), so it is considered the birthday of mankind, or everyone’s birthday. But specifically, that day is also my mom’s birthday, so I bought a small cake to celebrate the occasion.Bryan as usual, is very excited to see the cake. He even wanted to put on his party hat when he saw the cake. When I put the candle on the cake, he reminded me to light the candle as well. Since he loved the cake so much, we let him sang the Happy Birthday song several times, which he enjoyed tremendously. Needless to say, he wants to participate in the blowing of the candle and the cutting of the cake as well.

My sis commented that it looked more like his birthday celebration than my mom’s. But since is “human’s birthday” it can be counted as his also right?

If Bryan loves it, so do we…

I am constantly amazed at how much my life is dictated by Bryan since I became a mother.

I was never a fan of TGI Fridays, at least the outlet in Penang. Most of my friends do not really like it also.

Anyway, last Saturday, we were at Queensbay Mall. We initially wanted to have lunch at another restaurant but the restaurants do not have any baby chairs. There were a lot of people at the mall and so we just hop over to TGI because we noticed that they have empty tables when we passed by there earlier.

So we hopped in and ordered a 3 course meal (1 appetizer + 1 entrée + 1 dessert) . Neither hubb and I was really hungry that day and we think that the meal is more than enough to be shared between us. I ordered the kids spaghetti for Bryan because I cooked spaghetti for him a couple days ago and he loves it. I asked him if he wants spaghetti again, and he said “Yes.”

We were a bit disappointed when we got in, because the staff told us that they were out of baby chairs at the moment. But hubb and I were lazy to look for another place to eat, so we thought we will just stay put and hope that one will be available soon.

We let Bryan sit on the regular chair. And not long after that, he tells us that he needs to “pangsai” (pass motion). I was thinking to myself where is the nearest toilet, when Bryan slides himself off the chair and walks towards the kitchen, beckoning his dad to come along. Then only I remembered, there is a toilet at TGIF. I have forgotten all about it as the last time we were there were months ago. I am surprised Bryan remembers.

His food arrived shortly after Bryan returns from his “business” and I started feeding him. Next to our table, was a toddler sleeping in his stroller. Bryan was intrigued by him and wanted to get closer but luckily he stayed away when I told him that “koko” is sleeping and he should not disturb ko-ko. As Bryan was not seated in a baby chair, he had the freedom to slide up and down the regular adult chair and walked around. Luckily he stayed close all the time and would come back to get a bite regularly. So feeding him was a breeze even though he was mobile.

Soon he finished his spaghetti and still our entrée has not arrived. Service was very slow that day and the staff knew about it. So they surprised us with a complimentary bowl of wild mushroom soup. The soup was great and not long after that a baby chair is available. So, we seat Bryan in the chair and gave him the remaining soup for him to self feed. He loved it tremendously, and ate every single piece of mushroom available as well.

So when our entrée came, both hubb and I could eat in peace as Bryan was busy with the mushroom soup.

After we finished the entrée, Bryan tells us that he needs to pee now…(That’s how long we were in the restaurant). So hubb took him to pee and I asked the waitress to bring us our dessert.

Needless to say, Bryan shared our dessert – Chocolate Mud Cake as well when he returned. Both hubb and I found the mud cake a little too sweet and the portion huge even for 2 of us. But Bryan does not seem to mind…

Just look at the smile of satisfaction on his face!

The smile is more than enough to make our dining experience a happy one….(even though service was slow!)

Later, not sure if it was the caffeine or the sugar in the mud cake, Bryan was indeed more hyperactive. At one time, he was shaking his head and stomping his feet around , and he tells us that he was dancing! Hmm… we definitely would not order that dessert to share with Bryan the next time.

SK II youngest fansee?

Bryan’s favorite skin care brand? SKII !!! I am not sure if it is because of the constant advertisement on TV or the pretty SKII spokes model or the fact that I a partial SKII user myself.

He would stop whatever that he is doing the moment he sees the SKII advertisement, and he constantly is trying to get his hands on my bottles of SKII. One time he actually lost my bottle of SKII moisturizer. I hunted all over the house for it but could not find it. I found it later in the waste paper bin. *roll eyes*

Since then, I try to avoid letting him play with the bottles unless they are empty bottles. He actually has his “own” set of SKII – miniature empty bottles of SK II samples that I have finished using. We call it the “baby SKII set”

And when he knows where the SKII counter is located at the mall, and he would demand us to take us to the counter when ever we are at that floor or close by.

If you ask him, how do you apply SK II, this is what he will do?

Lazy bum-bum

We bought a new sofa set for our new house and Bryan seems to love the new sofa a lot. At our old house’s sofa, normally he would sit up straight on the sofa. But now, we can constantly see him lounging around the sofa watching TV or even playing his toys. If he is watching TV, most probably he would lie down comfortably on the one seater recliner and resting his head on the arm rest.

So why do you love the new sofa more, dear?